Darkness

I have so noticed how dark is in in the mornings, trouble is with all the very cloudy weather I don't know if it's the weather or the time of year!


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Pandora

The bad news today for me is that Pandora have some new jewellery out and Donna has already seen two things that she likes the look of!

My bank balance is not happy at what might happen....


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Website

As you know if you have been looking at this little blog of mine I have moved my website to a new hosting service, which was cheaper, in the uK and offered more than the old hosting service. The idea behind moving the hosting service to the UK was that they should be operating the same sort of hours as me which could be of a help if things stopped working.

Any way it turns out for reasons that I just don't understand that one of my domains did not for some reason get transferred over to the new host, so I have had to pay for it to be moved, it will be interesting to see if that all goes well.

The domain effected is citrusdreams.info this is the place that I hope to put the copied concrete 5 Dirk Maggs Productions Website and also the James Follett websites


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Quite

So it's been quite on the website front mainly because of the move of hosts and getting used to how they operate and also the control panels that they give you to control your websites with.


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L update

So L tells me that she appears to have trouble with just one of her kids excepting that things are going to change and that L has the right to a life. her kid is in her early twenties with a boyfriend she seemed to think that L should stay at home just on the off chance that she wanted to see her.


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Music

One thing that I find that need to do every few days is to listen to some music, why is that?

I like music, I suppose that most people do and now that you don't need to be near a music centre the amount and type of music that one can listen to at a moments notice has I suppose got bigger and bigger.

But why do I need to hear music very couple of days?

Not a clue!

But I have noticed that I am not the only one who needs or finds themselves listing to mucus every day or every couple days, so I am in good company.


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Blogs

I wonder sometimes if the number of blogs that are done each day is going up or down, wouldn't it be great if there was such a thing as a blog meter which showed you the number of blogs being posted by the hour by country in the world?

It bit like the trending thing you have on twitter but for blogs?

I wonder if the number of blogs posted is even something that can be captured and displayed?

Why it was a good idea to me at the time.

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Things

Some things never change and others appear to change all the time, what I mean by this is that it's now late august and already I am aware just how much daylight we are now starting to loose, so I suppose it means that winter is on it's way.


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Why all this stuff on L

I suppose that it is a good question why all this stuff on L?

It's a good question and the simple answer is that I have known L for a long time and to see the big life changes that she is going through is interesting and also very scary in that these changes can happen to anyone even to people who you think would have a stable relationship .

Just how does some one you know cope with all the change and disruption? To their life

I don't know the answer to that, all I do know is that it's nice to be there for someone you know and help and support them if they ask for help.

I have also been told by L that talking to someone who is not a relation but is a work friend does help with all that is going on, and surly in this day and age that is something worth doing?

So why write it down?

I suppose it's my way of dumping all this to a safe place so that when I look back on it all and what ever happens to L I will be able to see if the help and advice that I gave L was mostly right.

I don't expect to get it all right, as I am only human I will make mistakes, so the least thing that I can do about it is to learn from the mistakes that I make.

The other thing is that I don't think I would remember all the little things, which in the fullness of time may or may not make a difference if not to L to myself and Mrs D, as that relationship is and always will be the most important one.
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Test 2

Still testing the blogging software as the first time did not work, hopefully this time it's going to work.


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Test

Just testing the software I use to write this blog


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Updating the N8

The good news is that I have finally got the N8 updated to Anna, reading the help forums on the main Nokia site it would appear that I have been very lucky in getting the update to work and even luckier that I have a working phone!

The sad thing is that later this year there is yet another update, I think that when this one turns up I shall wait a few weeks after it's release so that there is a chance that the update will install with no dramas.


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L had a date

Well guesses as to who was late into work and left her car in the car park?

Yep

L did

She said to me that it was a great date, and admitted that she had fun, I asked her if the baby shower would be in late April 2012 she told me don't you dare jinx her !

So she said it was great and just how she wanted it to be and as she remembered it to be.

She and P on Saturday are looking now for a place to live for him then her.

So she has said that she is going to start slow packing up to 90 dresses and shoes that's a lot to pack.

And she has to file for divorce and when she has done that she is going to move out and go live with P.

One thing that she has to get her head around is how to tell the children all three of them and how all these changes are going to affect them.

L did say today that one of the reasons for her marriage to fail was the fact that M expected her to basically be the maid around the house and be at his beck and call, not what I would call a partnership.


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L on a date

So last night tells me she is going on a date with P, she looks and sounds very excited about it, I wonder what tomorrow will bring?


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Updating N8

Well for reasons that now I can't remember I saw that there was a firmware update for my phone, well the good news is my phone still works that bad news is on part one of the update has installed part two will not load due to the phone not having enough free memory.

It's proving difficult to see how to free up space when you can't see the files on the phone.


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L update

So I managed to talk to L again and she has updated me on how things are all going, in more detail than she said the other day.

When she told M that she wanted a divorce the only real thing that he said was I suppose we will have to put the house up for sale, nothing about the marriage of 12 years. He also said that L had made it clear over the last few months that she was not happy, but as L has said if you have a partner who does not talk to you, does not want to be with you or inter mate with you then the end result is going to be the same, eg the relationship will breakdown and finally fall apart.

Meanwhile for L it looks like P and her have connected as if they have not been apart for 20 years....

P is going to be moving to the area as his current relationship finished some time ago and now he is being asked to move out so I suppose it makes sense for him to move near to L

This will be a problem for L as she will want to move in with him and she does not want her kids to be put in the position where they have to choose where to live with their mother or their father.

The other thing is with the way that the housing Market is trying to sell the house at a good price will not be easy as the one thing L and M want to are going to try to do is not to get into financial trouble while they work out how to sort their lives out.

L has said that she can wait a while for things to be sorted out but at the end of the day her marriage is over and has been for the last two years and that if M had done something about back then it would not have failed, I suppose it takes two to keep a relationship going but I suppose that at some stage if one person is doing 95 percent of trying to keep the relationship going there will come a time when you just give up.


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Website

So the website is now on the new host and it appears to work okay, in fact all three domains that I own are all working , which is always good.

I have even managed to get the FTP programme working and can upload and download from each of the domains.

The only problem so far is that I can't get the redirect function to work correctly.

Will have to have another look at it when I have more time.


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ISS

I was lucky tonight to see the ISS as it went overhead in the UK as it was cloudy


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Updates on L

So L has told me that last Saturday 20th Aug that she wanted a divorce, so her meeting with P last week must have gone well for her to make the decision that she has and I suppose that she now can't go back to how things were.

The next few months will be very testing for L P and M as their lives are turned upside down. It remains to be seen if the outcome will be as they all want it to be and that most of them are going to be happy.


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Website

So my new website is up and working the only problem that I have is to get all the content back on it.

The database driven Dirk Maggs Producer website is not working, I have backed up everything, that's the good news, the bad news is that I can't find where I saved the backup of the contents file which is some 8 megs in size, the database file is only 512 k.

I will have another good look around to see if I can find the file, if not I will have to make a choice as to what I want to do next.

As a temporary measure I am going to put up my old non database Dirk Maggs site, so that at least the search engines take people to a page with some information on Dirk Maggs.

I don't know at this time as to weather I want to have another data driven site.


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Holiday

It's that time again and I am on holiday.

We left it late this time and so it became a bit of job to find a holiday cottage but in the end after a long search we did find somewhere to go.

We ended up with a a holiday house in Saltash which is somewhere I have never been before.

So far it's been good and today we did a walk of about in total nine miles walking part of the south coast path from Looe it did rain at one stage but at the end of day it turned warm and sunny and I managed to get sunburned.


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Things

Some things can really iss you off


Yet other things don't, strange that?

Why?


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L and her life

L is a friend at work who I have known for a long time, since 2005 to be exact.

In fact she only told me a short while ago, that her marriage of 12 years appears to her to be over due to the way her husband has been treating her at home.

I must admit that I was very surprised that she being treated so badly.

Any way the main point of this blog was to say that you never know what is going to happen in your life.
This certainly appears to be the case with L as she said as much in that she never expect to find her self in the position that she finds herself in.


The good news appears to be that she appears to have meet again someone from her past and that the signs are good that there may be something there.

So only time will tell if that is the case.

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L and her life 2

So I spoke about L and her marriage to M it would appear that on her birthday 2 years ago not only did he completely forget it not even a card or a present or even acknowledge that it was L's birthday but did not even acknowledge that he had done something that upset her.

So you can imagine how L felt this year when he did exactly the same thing again, and has made not attempt to put things right in his marriage.

It would appear that M has changed in some way to such an extent that he no longer wants to be with L

It appears from what L has said that they are more like bother and sister than a couple in that they lead separate lives inside the house.

By that they do not cook for each other and live in different parts of the house and also have separate bedrooms.

So I suppose that after two years of this L has decided that for all intense and purposes that their marriage is over and that the only reason that they are still in the same house is because of financial reasons more than anything else.

So a couple of weeks ago L was at the wedding of her brother, I think she was glad that her brother was finally getting married as he is in his 40's.

So the last thing that L expected to happen was to bump into and only flame of hers from over twenty years ago.

Now P was someone that she was girlfriend to for about eight years, and because he would not commit all those years ago L broke off the relationship even though L has admitted that she loved him very much.

So at the wedding L meets P and the first thing he does is give her a kiss and a cuddle. now L has admitted that the cuddle had the very strange effect of making her heart beat a bit faster and a funny feeling in her stomach.


They managed only to talk for a short time at the wedding but it's obvious to all there that there is a spark between them, to make things more interesting they both are free to have a realonship, the thing is will they?


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Rain

So I am on holiday and what is the one thing you don't want, that's right rain, so what do we get yes rain.....

You can imagine just the words I have been using.


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Memory

What happens to memories ?

Take for instance L and her first love that she was with for eight years what happened to all those memories when she met and married M?

And now that her marriage appears to have failed what happens to all the years of marriage memories?

I don't know

How does someone cope with and deal with all those different memories and emotions ?

I have been lucky and have had what to some is the rare event and that is a long relationship with the same person for some 28 years so I have no way of knowing how one deals with having several major relationships.

I do know what I have gone through and also what L has gone through are not rare, how can it be when there are more than six billion people in the world, in fact what has happened to me and also to L must have been repeated millions of times, so somewhere on this planet there must be someone who could tell me how one copes with all these memories.

I have not asked L as I don't want to upset her more than she is already upset with what is going on in her life at this time.


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Music

I find it amazing that if I don't listen to some music at some point in the day I feel as if something is missing from my day?

Why is this?

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L and now

So L has met her ex from over twenty years ago both her and P are no longer the people they were.

L has had 3 children who are in their early twenties and has been married some 12 years

P has never married or had children

So how much do they have in common?

Is the common ground they share their lives before they went their separate ways?

I don't know the answer to this question it's one that I would like to put to L and P if I ever meet him to ask, as I suspect that the answer from L and P will not be the same answer.


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Marriage?

You have seen on my blog the story of L and P and how they have meet up again after some twenty years.

One. Thing I did ask L the other day is that if she got divorced from M would she marry P?

Her answer was and she admitted that this was something that P had already asked her was yes she would marry again.

I suppose that such an answer should not be a surprise as she was clearly very much taken with P when she was younger and only if he had been able to commit then she would have married him.

The question as to weather the marriage would have lasted is something that can never be known, it's possible that some other reason exists as to why P and L never got married when they were younger.

As L has said thing do happen for a reason what ever that reason might be.

As an outsider to all this I feel as if sometimes I am watching a film or a biography and that what I am seeing is all just a story, the only thing being that this is a story that involves real people and lots of emotions, and some of the things that are going to happen in the next few months are going to cause a lot of hurt and pain for lots of people, and from what I can see it's going to happen and there is nothing anyone can do to stop it happening.

I know that its going on with other people all over the world, but I don't know them do I?

So even though I am on the side lines it's not going to be nice seeing someone you know get hurt and know that there is nothing you can do to stop it from starting.


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Swords

Today I had the chance to hold a 1.5 meter long 6 kilos in weight sword, I must admit that it was a very strange thing to hold and that I would not like to have to have had to use it in real life as it's such a large item that you are supposed to use to kill some one with.

If you can not guess I was visiting a national trust property today that goes back to the Tudor period and so it goes without saying that they would have some old swords that are only 300 or 400 hundred years old that once you have put gloves on you can handle while under supervision.

It's something that I am glad that I did and would do again, as to me it felt that I had a chance to touch a bit of history.


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Wet

So it's august so it should be nice and warm with blue skies, so what do we get here in Cornwall?

Yes rain and dull grey skies, I suppose that it should not be surprise as after all we are in the UK and should expect nothing less.


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Changes

We the renewal has come up for the web host company that I use. Now the current company are based in America and have provide an okay service apart from two things.

The first is that there speed of response to a problem always take 6 or more hours, which is just far to long.

The second
Problem is that the hosting was too slow with my main website taking just far to long to appear and to change pages and before you say it's my website the software that drives that runs some very large website else where and has no problems with pages appearing in 1 or 2 seconds.

So I have a new web host which is also now in the UK and I have already tried out there support and I have to say a response within 10 minutes every time I have used it so far has been great.

The site sped is much much quicker than the old host.

The only problem I now have is transferring all the contents form the old host to the new.

The size of the problem is 7 gigabytes which looks like it's going to take for ever to move around.

So add to the fun I have already perhaps foolishly requested that the DNS name servers point to my new host.

So knowing my luck I could end up with blank screens.

And I did this knowing that I am on leave from tonight for a week!

Yeah I know, don't say it as I already have.....


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Love

The friend that I spoke about in an early blog has got love real bad infect I would say that they look at least 10 years younger than a couple of weeks ago, so it's amazing what falling in love can do.

I think I heard an expression love will find a way and for this person that certainly appears to be the case.


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Love

I think I have seen a friend fall in love and the change in how they look act and talk is amazing, I really did not think that such a thing was possible but having just seen it happen almost overnight has been a real eye opener.


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Blogs

Just been reading or rather scrolling on blogger through the different blogs that are on there.

The thing that I found sad was that so many of the blogs appear to have been started with say 10 or so entries after that there are no more entries, it appears that like podcasts you also get blog fade.

I suppose that a lot of these blogs were started in the rush of let's try this new hip thing and that some time after the reality of how much work it can be causes the user to just drift off doing the blog, I suspect that it is this or some thing like it that causes fade.


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Reading

Not done any book reading for a while now, due to the fact that I have just not felt up to it, what with the weather and work...

The other fact is that there are no books out there at this time that I want to read at this time, or and this is more the case can afford to buy, by that I mean there are several books that I want to read but they are all in hard back at this time so i shall have to wait for them to come out in paperback.


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White space

So with all this White space awaiting for some one to put some letters on it it can get a bit daunting as to what to do next or write next.

As I can write about anything as long as I don't break any laws.


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Audio twitter

Audio twitter good or bad?

I have not got a clue how it would work, perhaps you are only allowed 255 seconds of record time?

Just another silly thought.


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Not much blogging

Have not done much blogging here compared to what I have done in the recent past, mainly as I had nothing that I wanted to say and also as it's been so hot and work has been very intense with the result that the last thing that I wanted to see was yet another computer screen.


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Hot

Been so hot that have not used the iPad


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